It can be very difficult to seek help, especially when many people fear that they will be judged negatively, or that asking for help means they are not strong enough to do something on their own. I have heard many people say that they think of themselves as strong and that they never thought they would be so weak as to need to go to therapy. I offer an alternative perspective – that it takes great strength to face challenges head on and to recognize that you could benefit from this kind of support. Gaining support may help a person to move through challenge without damaging other areas of their life such as job or academic performance and relationships. By learning skills to manage stressful situations, you also may be able to prevent future difficulty and move through future challenges more easily on your own. Wanting to feel connected and supported when facing hardship is also a very normal human desire and having support can at times protect a person from more severe emotional or physical health problems developing. These factors seem to make seeking therapeutic help a smart idea, rather than a sign of weakness.
It is easier to avoid looking at things that are uncomfortable, painful, or require reflection on your own areas for growth. If it doesn’t feel good, many people just choose not to do it. However, ignoring the challenges in your life often lead to a lack of change. Without understanding distressing patterns and developing new ways of coping with or addressing them, you are more likely to stay stuck in the same place. It takes a strong will to look at such things and to create change in your life – to me, that is far from being weak.